ASH AMBIRGE

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A Beautiful Mess: A Personal Manifesto of The Human Experience

In: Feeling Dead and Uninspired

I need my life to feel meaningful.

I must work toward something I believe in.

I want to create value.

I want to be bold.

I want to live up to my own expectations.

And never settle unless I choose to.

I want to be exhilarated by every single day.

And be in awe of life.

And the world.

And my part in it.

I want to trip.

I want to fall.

And I want to get back up.

Look the world in the eye.

And do it again.

Because I've realized something throughout this life.

And it's that we prosper through adversity.

I am more wealthy for having had nothing.

I am more anchored from not having had a home.

I am more connected from being alone.

I am more present from having been lost.

I am more encouraged from having been disappointed.

I am more determined from having been defeated.

I am more resolute from having succumbed.

And I am more me now, from having been less me in the past.

But most of all.

I am more successful for having failed.

Because had my failures not existed

I would not have gained the wisdom that I have now.

And that wisdom is precious.

And integral to my future success.

So I will take that wisdom. I will take my failures. And I will try my best to succeed.

But if it does not work out.

If I fall again.

I will not be upset.

Because I know that I will always get back up.

And after the rain storm.

I will be proud.

Not just content.

To be who I am.

However, if instead of falling.

It turns out that I fly…

Well, then, I'll be even more humbled.

And appeased to soar.

Until the moment in which I fall once again.

Because if nothing else.

Nothing is permanent.

It's all a cycle.

Life is a series of successes & failures, wins and losses.

And learning how to use both to your advantage.

And since I know.

That no matter what.

I'll always experience one & the other alike.

…Then in the meantime.

All that I can do.

Is be sure that I'm skinny dipping in possibility.

Every single day.

Because at the very least I'll know that I've lived.

And didn't just go through the motions of life.

Authentically.

Shamelessly.

Without abandon.

Embracing the raw vulnerabilities

That truly make us human.

Because it's that which makes this world worth experiencing.

And it is only through doing so

That I can truly be me.

A beautiful mess.

But alive.

“The successful do not pursue what's probable; the best pursue the heart-pounding, exciting, really big, difference-making dreams.”  John Eliot


Aug 30

2015

Big Things Don’t Happen in Big Ways

Aug 30, 2015

. That dot is where you are. ——–>           . This dot is where you want to be. (Which makes me sound like a woman named Bonnie with big hair in a cheesy 1985 Visa commercial, but alas, I’m just a woman named Ash with big hair in 2015.) People have […]

In: Feeling Dead and Uninspired

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Jan 24

2016

On Getting Old, Having No Idea How to Make a Soufflé & Consciously Choosing to Do What You WANT.

Jan 24, 2016

It’s 2:42 in the morning and the reason I’m awake is called CHARDONNAY. People talk about getting old—buying crock pots, nonchalantly cutting your spouse’s armpit hairs, relating more to The Golden Girls than The Gilmore Girls—but they do not prepare you for the one thing that will change your life even more than tiny packets of GrillMates: […]

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Nov 5

2012

Where’s Your God Damn Pineapple?

Nov 5, 2012

There’s always a reason why you shouldn’t. Shouldn’t spend the money. Shouldn’t be so frivolous. Shouldn’t miss work. Shouldn’t be irresponsible. Shouldn’t act so hastily. And a million other reasons why you shouldn’t do what you’ve been wanting to do. The real question, of course, isn’t whether you should or you shouldn’t. Because when it […]

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Jul 18

2010

The Real Value of Travel (Come Sneak Away to the Beaches of Costa Rica, If You Dare)

Jul 18, 2010

A Sexy Story With a Lesson We sit in near silence, the only interruptions being an occasional mojito-induced outburst of nervous laughter, the sound of my silver chandelier earrings gently clinkering together, and the relentless tropical rains that steadily pelt the top of the canvas roof of the 4×4 automobile we are in. It’s shamelessly […]

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Feb 8

2019

I Hate Mantras, And YET—I Love This One for When You’re Kinda Sorta Shitting Your Pants

Feb 8, 2019

I have a mantra (despite wanting to slit my throat upon hearing the word “mantra.”) Are you ready? My mantra is this: WHO CARES HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT IT? GO ANYWAY. Which sounds really kinda wrong, right? We’re a culture based on f-e-e-e-e-e-e-l-i-n-g-s. But sometimes, you have to override the ones that I call false […]

In: Feeling Dead and Uninspired, Feeling Disillusioned With Life

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I'm a Bad Influence on Women

Hey, I’m Ash! Twenty years ago I was a small town girl growing up in a trailer park in rural Pennsylvania. Fifteen years ago, I lost my family and everything I knew right as I became the first to graduate college. Fourteen years ago, I found myself leaving everything behind for a new life in the city where I could be “normal.” Ten years ago I realized normal was the most disappointing thing that ever happened to me. Nine years ago I quit my job in advertising and pursued my dreams as a creative writer. Eight years ago, I built a 6-figure business doing what I love using nothing more than the Internet and my voice. And now, today, I’m the founder of The Middle Finger Project, an irreverent media co. that helps other women find their voice and teaches them to use it to build whatever the f*ck they want to. With a book coming out with Penguin Random House in February 2020 (YASSS, WE’RE A PRODUCT IN TARGET!) I’m proud to be a bad influence on women and guide them into doing something disobediently brave with their life and their career.

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