Comments on: Dream Zappers Part II: Why They Zap, Squash & Belittle Your Aspirations

By: Marie Kazalia

Marie Kazalia — Sun, 17 Jul 2011 12:31:00 +0000

Dream Zappers frequently *come after me*!
devious stuff–fake-friendly–and in groups even

I am myself and open and helpful to all. When I offer to assist a DZ with some valuable free information, most are so suspicious they can’t accept it! They do themselves in every time, and are
easy to get rid of (try generosity–that will scare them away)

By: Marie Kazalia

Marie Kazalia — Sun, 17 Jul 2011 12:31:00 +0000

Dream Zappers frequently *come after me*!
devious stuff–fake-friendly–and in groups even

By: KCLAnderson (Karen)

KCLAnderson (Karen) — Fri, 10 Jun 2011 15:37:00 +0000

It took me a very long time to realize that the biggest DZ in my life was…me (with help from my mother…it’s what she modeled). Over the past five years I have dared to make my dream come true and she tried to zap me one last time (and it was a big one) about six months ago. I made a choice to stop receiving her energy in my life and amazing things are happening! I’d like to think that I can have both my dreams and a relationship with her but at this point I am not sure if it’s possible. I’d like to think so because I am very much a both/and thinker (not an either/or thinker). We shall see. Anyway, thank you…it’s good to have found you!

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By: Denise Michaels

Denise Michaels — Mon, 09 Aug 2010 11:33:43 +0000

Isn't it amazing how parents and family members will say, “All I want is for you to be happy.” But woe be it if your idea of happiness isn't the same as their idea of happiness.

Author, Kurt Vonnegut was famous back in the 70s for saying, “The worst thing you can do to piss off your parents is tell them your gay or an artist.” I think a writer or an intrepid traveler kind of falls into the same category as an artist. When others choose an unconventional path it scares people. They can't make sense of the “path.” Where are you going with all this?

I'm 52 and I wake up every day asking questions: Am I doing anything fulfilling today? Am I doing anything to make a difference? Am I spending my time expressing my gifts – what God put me on the planet to do?

I'm blessed that I have more freedom than the average woman. I own my own business so I don't have a boss or a commute. I'm still madly in love with my husband after many years together. I've learned how to create income using my talents and gifts. I'm just learning how to tweak it so I can take it on the road. Soon. )

I'm not travelling. Yet. But I've chosen a rather unconventional life (most of the time anyway) and followed my passions. I have made mistakes. But I have no regrets.

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By: TMFproject

TMFproject — Sat, 26 Jun 2010 20:21:40 +0000

Amy,

I just logged onto your blog, and want you to know that I fully support your perspectives on life, and think you're doing a damn good job. You should be proud of yourself.

Furthermore, if your husband's family is full of dream zappers, that must make it even more difficult. The important thing to remember is that an opinion is not a fact, and just because they've got some, doesn't mean that they're right.

You know what's right for you.

Awesome to see someone living so authentically! You go!

By: Amy

Amy — Thu, 24 Jun 2010 06:49:08 +0000

My husbands entire family are Zappers. We call them Dream Squashers, it must be awful to be so limited by yourself. They are so afraid to live

By: Mars Dorian

Mars Dorian — Tue, 15 Jun 2010 22:01:08 +0000

Giiirl I luv your style soo much. And I don't have anything respect for Dream Zappers. Just because you are living waay below your potential doesn't mean everyone else should.

Nowadays, I just focus on what I want and don't pay attention to people who tell me otherwise. It takes practice, but it's a fulfilling process.

Zap those Dream Zappers - zap 'em good by ignoring them.

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By: TMFproject

TMFproject — Fri, 11 Jun 2010 20:01:01 +0000

@Roblynn
Yes–reminding others that they, perhaps, aren't living their lives to the degree that they could tends to provoke a lot of negative, bitter reactions that come in the form of put downs. Fortunately, by just having enough faith in yourself and your decisions, it's easy to turn your head and keep on going down the path that you know is right for you!

Will be in Costa Rica for the long-term starting August/Sept–would love to get together for some guaro!

By: Roblynn

Roblynn — Fri, 11 Jun 2010 19:17:27 +0000

Great post! When hubby quit the PO after 24 yrs. and I sold my “thriving” massage business and we sold everything we owned to move to Costa Rica we found out who the DZ's were in our life really quickly. I do have to say most people were totally supportive and continue to offer us their encouragement and support. But man those haters have lots of power and can sure get those digs in! We just try to hang with the people who encourage and if nothing else, keep their negative comments to themselves. It is also exciting to see more and more people taking control of their lives at young ages, that is awesome! Our one consolation if we never make a ton of money on our adventure is that we have given many family and especially our children the courage to follow their dreams, whatever they may be! Keep giving folks that courage, it is contagious! Thanks and Pura Vida!

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By: TMFproject

TMFproject — Sun, 25 Apr 2010 18:45:06 +0000

@Martin
Appreciate the kind words, and welcome to the site! I popped over to yours and left a comment–fascinating venture you've got going on over there.

Keep on with the big ideas–they're the most valuable asset we've got.

Salud!

By: Martin

Martin — Sun, 25 Apr 2010 17:32:30 +0000

Just found your blog yesterday and that was a bloody brilliant post! I recently had this conversation with a dream zapper, after having described my crazy west african real estate projects:

DZ: You care too much about money.
Me: Well, what I'm doing isnt primarily about money, more about freedom and to not depend on my day-job.
DZ: But everyone has to work!
Me: No!!

I wrote a whole post analysing this, and then I found your blog so I made another post starting with: "So, what to do when somebody has already expressed what you are trying to say, but much better? Well, quote and link:"