Comments on: Tales of a Terrified Lifestyle Designer http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/tales-of-a-terrified-lifestyle-designer/#utm_source=feed&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=feed Because entrepreneurs do it better, and vulgar titles are funny. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 06:44:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Daniel http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/tales-of-a-terrified-lifestyle-designer/comment-page-1/#comment-8256 Daniel Wed, 14 Dec 2011 16:01:00 +0000 http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/?p=288#comment-8256 This is probably one of the best thing I have read on the internet...ever. It's Perfect. This is probably one of the best thing I have read on the internet…ever. It’s Perfect.

]]> By: mosesbernard http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/tales-of-a-terrified-lifestyle-designer/comment-page-1/#comment-932 mosesbernard Fri, 15 Jan 2010 02:08:51 +0000 http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/?p=288#comment-932 My biggest fear is ending up with an impressive mortgage, 2.5 kids, a BMW, and the popular dog of the day. Seriously, it scares the SHIT out of me. Like scared in the same way southern republicans fear progress scared. My biggest fear is ending up with an impressive mortgage, 2.5 kids, a BMW, and the popular dog of the day.  Seriously, it scares the SHIT out of me.  Like scared in the same way southern republicans fear progress scared.

]]> By: mosesbernard http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/tales-of-a-terrified-lifestyle-designer/comment-page-1/#comment-525 mosesbernard Thu, 14 Jan 2010 20:08:51 +0000 http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/?p=288#comment-525 My biggest fear is ending up with an impressive mortgage, 2.5 kids, a BMW, and the popular dog of the day. Seriously, it scares the SHIT out of me. Like scared in the same way southern republicans fear progress scared. My biggest fear is ending up with an impressive mortgage, 2.5 kids, a BMW, and the popular dog of the day.  Seriously, it scares the SHIT out of me.  Like scared in the same way southern republicans fear progress scared.

]]> By: If You’re Wrinkly, It Better Have Been Worth It: A Stern Talking To My 90 Year Old Self | The Middle Finger Project http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/tales-of-a-terrified-lifestyle-designer/comment-page-1/#comment-385 If You’re Wrinkly, It Better Have Been Worth It: A Stern Talking To My 90 Year Old Self | The Middle Finger Project Sat, 26 Dec 2009 19:17:29 +0000 http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/?p=288#comment-385 [...] through a transition. It seemed as if no desk job was ever big enough for you; you often became restless and were in a continual state of transition as a result. I remember once telling you that you [...] [...] through a transition. It seemed as if no desk job was ever big enough for you; you often became restless and were in a continual state of transition as a result. I remember once telling you that you [...]

]]> By: TMFproject http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/tales-of-a-terrified-lifestyle-designer/comment-page-1/#comment-342 TMFproject Fri, 18 Dec 2009 21:40:07 +0000 http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/?p=288#comment-342 You know, I once thought the same. I thought I had finally fulfilled the travel bug, and that I could now settle down and lead a "normal" life, and start putting things in order. And for a moment, there was something temporarily satisfying about that. As if I were finally doing what I was "suppose" to do, and being a good little girl. But here's the bad news - even once you are "settled and financially comfortable" you will NOT be less likely to want to pull up your roots to go on world adventures. In fact, I'd argue that the pull will become even greater, as you pile on more and more ties. If you're restless at heart, you will always be restless at heart - maybe not on the exterior, but you will always have that inner nagging at you to do what you know will be most satisfying, ultimately. I made the mistake of buying all sorts of furniture, cars, etc....and then it was even more of a hassle when my true self came back around, luring me to the nearest airport. "What was I thinking?!" You know, I once thought the same.  I thought I had finally fulfilled the travel bug, and that I could now settle down and lead a “normal” life, and start putting things in order.  And for a moment, there was something temporarily satisfying about that.  As if I were finally doing what I was “suppose” to do, and being a good little girl.  But here's the bad news – even once you are “settled and financially comfortable” you will NOT be less likely to want to pull up your roots to go on world adventures.  In fact, I'd argue that the pull will become even greater, as you pile on more and more ties.  If you're restless at heart, you will always be restless at heart – maybe not on the exterior, but you will always have that inner nagging at you to do what you know will be most satisfying, ultimately.  I made the mistake of buying all sorts of furniture, cars, etc….and then it was even more of a hassle when my true self came back around, luring me to the nearest airport.  “What was I thinking?!”

]]> By: Sean Stargazer http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/tales-of-a-terrified-lifestyle-designer/comment-page-1/#comment-299 Sean Stargazer Wed, 16 Dec 2009 23:35:59 +0000 http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/?p=288#comment-299 I am restless as well.<br><br>I have quit several jobs to the chagrin of my family of origin. <br><br>My yen to travel led me to leave Liverpool, England with very little money (what amounted to $500US) in my skyrocket and move to LA, CA. I have no regrets.<br><br>I went to school to become a massage therapist and I love it. My soul, however, hates routine, and fears ending up with three kids and a husband, pushing an ambulator and living in a four bedroom house. Eek! I can hear my soul shrieking in terror at the very thought!<br><br>I can't seem to remain satisfied with a job for more than six months. And after six months, I really start to hate the flat I live in; so much, in fact, that I move around alot because my spirit gets restless.<br><br>I have the spirit of an adventurer, wanderer, explorer. I desire to meet new people, speak new languages, etc. I yearn to learn!<br><br>Currently, I feel very restless and trapped. I have a job doing work I like, and I live in Santa Monica, CA like I've always wanted to. Yet, I don't feel satisfied or happy at all. When I did, it was short lived.<br><br>My soul yearns to travel. To live a location independent lifestyle. Whilst my mini-me (my mind and the centre of my social conditioning voices) is cautioning against that and suggesting staying on my current course until I have enough money saved up.<br><br>I know this for the lie it really is. Once I am settled and financially comfortable, I will be less likely to want pull up my roots to go on world adventures. I'll be thinking of my house, my business, my family pet, my significant other. And do I really want to spend that nest egg in the bank or save it for a rainy day that never comes?<br><br>What's a fellow wanderer to do, Ash? Sigh!<br><br>Anyway, this is where I am right now. I know that things will changes because I am working on changing them! <br><br>Nice to meet a kindred spirit! I am restless as well.

I have quit several jobs to the chagrin of my family of origin.

My yen to travel led me to leave Liverpool, England with very little money (what amounted to $500US) in my skyrocket and move to LA, CA.  I have no regrets.

I went to school to become a massage therapist and I love it.  My soul, however, hates routine, and fears ending up with three kids and a husband, pushing an ambulator and living in a four bedroom house.  Eek!  I can hear my soul shrieking in terror at the very thought!

I can't seem to remain satisfied with a job for more than six months.  And after six months, I really start to hate the flat I live in; so much, in fact, that I move around alot because my spirit gets restless.

I have the spirit of an adventurer, wanderer, explorer.  I desire to meet new people, speak new languages, etc.  I yearn to learn!

Currently, I feel very restless and trapped.  I have a job doing work I like, and I live in Santa Monica, CA like I've always wanted to.  Yet, I don't feel satisfied or happy at all.  When I did, it was short lived.

My soul yearns to travel.  To live a location independent lifestyle.  Whilst my mini-me (my mind and the centre of my social conditioning voices) is cautioning against that and suggesting staying on my current course until I have enough money saved up.

I know this for the lie it really is.  Once I am settled and financially comfortable, I will be less likely to want pull up my roots to go on world adventures.  I'll be thinking of my house, my business, my family pet, my significant other.  And do I really want to spend that nest egg in the bank or save it for a rainy day that never comes?

What's a fellow wanderer to do, Ash?  Sigh!

Anyway, this is where I am right now.  I know that things will changes because I am working on changing them! 

Nice to meet a kindred spirit!

]]> By: TMFproject http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/tales-of-a-terrified-lifestyle-designer/comment-page-1/#comment-226 TMFproject Mon, 07 Dec 2009 19:55:35 +0000 http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/?p=288#comment-226 Based on what you've written here, I have a strong feeling you're not going to be back anytime soon. :) I, too, had that life once upon a time...and I don't think it would have mattered with whom I was with--I am just overwhelmed with a compelling urge to wander, explore, understand and know other places, people, experiences, emotions. Believe me, you will learn plenty about love and plenty about life when traveling; it's been my experience that it's when I travel that I make the strongest connections with others because it's often the case that those you stumble upon tend to be very like-minded. :) Well, in terms of other travelers, anyway. And as cool as that is, if I could suggest one thing it'd be to make sure you put yourself out there and get in with the locals - they will teach you far more about yourself than you could have ever imagined. <br><br>Keep us posted, and keep on pushing yourself forward! <br><br>Thanks for stopping by. :) Based on what you've written here, I have a strong feeling you're not going to be back anytime soon.  :) I, too, had that life once upon a time…and I don't think it would have mattered with whom I was with–I am just overwhelmed with a compelling urge to wander, explore, understand and know other places, people, experiences, emotions.  Believe me, you will learn plenty about love and plenty about life when traveling; it's been my experience that it's when I travel that I make the strongest connections with others because it's often the case that those you stumble upon tend to be very like-minded.  :) Well, in terms of other travelers, anyway.  And as cool as that is, if I could suggest one thing it'd be to make sure you put yourself out there and get in with the locals – they will teach you far more about yourself than you could have ever imagined. 

Keep us posted, and keep on pushing yourself forward! 

Thanks for stopping by.  :)

]]> By: floretacui http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/tales-of-a-terrified-lifestyle-designer/comment-page-1/#comment-216 floretacui Sun, 06 Dec 2009 00:54:14 +0000 http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/?p=288#comment-216 Just found your blog and love it! While I haven't gone on any big adventures yet, I am about to. And I can relate. I have heard the "you're so brave", "you've got guts", "it takes a lot of courage" SO many times. I am actually both TERRIFIED of what's to come (the uncertainty, the unknown) but TERRIFIED of what you're talking about too: settling. I used to own a house and dog (with a cohabiting boyfriend, thankfully no marriage!!) only one year ago.. and when I think back to that part of my life, it seems like such a dream; so unreal! House, marriage, kids? That's NOT in my list of goals. "Lifestyle Design" is a new buzzword for me, but I feel that I've got the bug, clearly. I'm restless too. I feel like I HAVE to explore because it would not be part of "who I am" to stay a workdrone. I'm simply following my intuition and try to live my life by my inner compass (where to next?) I've been trying to find out ways to become "Location Independent". I also feel I could market myself and my skill sets rather than conform to a corporate structure. But beyond that, I think the MOST courage is simply Love. I'm well aware that I'm avoiding that. And I don't mean romantic love, though that's part of it. I mean a deep love to share with someone, to settle with. Someone WORTH settling for. But, at the same time, I hope to learn more about Love in my travels just by the people I meet and the things that I can share. Just found your blog and love it! While I haven't gone on any big adventures yet, I am about to. And I can relate. I have heard the “you're so brave”, “you've got guts”, “it takes a lot of courage” SO many times. I am actually both TERRIFIED of what's to come (the uncertainty, the unknown) but TERRIFIED of what you're talking about too: settling. I used to own a house and dog (with a cohabiting boyfriend, thankfully no marriage!!) only one year ago.. and when I think back to that part of my life, it seems like such a dream; so unreal! House, marriage, kids? That's NOT in my list of goals. “Lifestyle Design” is a new buzzword for me, but I feel that I've got the bug, clearly. I'm restless too. I feel like I HAVE to explore because it would not be part of “who I am” to stay a workdrone. I'm simply following my intuition and try to live my life by my inner compass (where to next?) I've been trying to find out ways to become “Location Independent”. I also feel I could market myself and my skill sets rather than conform to a corporate structure. But beyond that, I think the MOST courage is simply Love. I'm well aware that I'm avoiding that. And I don't mean romantic love, though that's part of it. I mean a deep love to share with someone, to settle with. Someone WORTH settling for. But, at the same time, I hope to learn more about Love in my travels just by the people I meet and the things that I can share.

]]> By: Tales of a Terrified Lifestyle Designer : The Middle Finger Project | Breaking News 24/7 http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/tales-of-a-terrified-lifestyle-designer/comment-page-1/#comment-113 Tales of a Terrified Lifestyle Designer : The Middle Finger Project | Breaking News 24/7 Mon, 23 Nov 2009 02:58:16 +0000 http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/?p=288#comment-113 [...] go there (drive through), but wouldn’t get out of their cars. … See original here: Tales of a Terrified Lifestyle Designer : The Middle Finger Project Share and [...] [...] go there (drive through), but wouldn’t get out of their cars. … See original here: Tales of a Terrified Lifestyle Designer : The Middle Finger Project Share and [...]

]]> By: Tales of a Terrified Lifestyle Designer : The Middle Finger Project | Chile Today http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/tales-of-a-terrified-lifestyle-designer/comment-page-1/#comment-111 Tales of a Terrified Lifestyle Designer : The Middle Finger Project | Chile Today Sun, 22 Nov 2009 20:03:29 +0000 http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/?p=288#comment-111 [...] Read more from the original source: Tales of a Terrified Lifestyle Designer : The Middle Finger Project [...] [...] Read more from the original source: Tales of a Terrified Lifestyle Designer : The Middle Finger Project [...]

]]> By: Tales of a Terrified Lifestyle Designer : The Middle Finger Project | Greece today http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/tales-of-a-terrified-lifestyle-designer/comment-page-1/#comment-108 Tales of a Terrified Lifestyle Designer : The Middle Finger Project | Greece today Sun, 22 Nov 2009 17:09:28 +0000 http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/?p=288#comment-108 [...] Original post: Tales of a Terrified Lifestyle Designer : The Middle Finger Project [...] [...] Original post: Tales of a Terrified Lifestyle Designer : The Middle Finger Project [...]

]]> By: Stacey Benedict http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/tales-of-a-terrified-lifestyle-designer/comment-page-1/#comment-176 Stacey Benedict Sun, 22 Nov 2009 14:03:35 +0000 http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/?p=288#comment-176 But I'm "another 110 poind girl" so it fits! Lets go to Poland! Oooorrr lets hike the Appalachain Trail from Georgia to Maine...you pick. But I'm “another 110 poind girl” so it fits! Lets go to Poland! Oooorrr lets hike the Appalachain Trail from Georgia to Maine…you pick.

]]> By: Stacey Benedict http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/tales-of-a-terrified-lifestyle-designer/comment-page-1/#comment-175 Stacey Benedict Sun, 22 Nov 2009 14:01:15 +0000 http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/?p=288#comment-175 But I'm "another 110 poind girl" so it fits! Lets go to Poland! Oooorrr lets hike the Appalachain Trail from Georgia to Maine...you pick. But I'm “another 110 poind girl” so it fits! Lets go to Poland! Oooorrr lets hike the Appalachain Trail from Georgia to Maine…you pick.

]]> By: Stacey Benedict http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/tales-of-a-terrified-lifestyle-designer/comment-page-1/#comment-107 Stacey Benedict Sun, 22 Nov 2009 13:03:35 +0000 http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/?p=288#comment-107 But I'm "another 110 poind girl" so it fits! Lets go to Poland! Oooorrr lets hike the Appalachain Trail from Georgia to Maine...you pick. But I'm “another 110 poind girl” so it fits! Lets go to Poland! Oooorrr lets hike the Appalachain Trail from Georgia to Maine…you pick.

]]> By: Stacey Benedict http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/tales-of-a-terrified-lifestyle-designer/comment-page-1/#comment-106 Stacey Benedict Sun, 22 Nov 2009 13:01:15 +0000 http://www.themiddlefingerproject.org/?p=288#comment-106 But I'm "another 110 poind girl" so it fits! Lets go to Poland! Oooorrr lets hike the Appalachain Trail from Georgia to Maine...you pick. But I'm “another 110 poind girl” so it fits! Lets go to Poland! Oooorrr lets hike the Appalachain Trail from Georgia to Maine…you pick.

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