ASH AMBIRGE

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Just The Tip: How to Be the Most Confident Person At The Table

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When somebody doesn’t buy from you, which are you thinking?

Man, I’m a loser” 

or

Man, they’re a loser.” 

Getting cocksure is the very first order of business.

And if you don’t feel sure of yourself, you know what you need? Not more clients.

You need to sit your ass down, read 100 books, grovel for the chance to prove yourself, weasel your way into opportunities with people who ARE good, yank yourself kicking and screaming out of your fucking comfort zone, experiment, keep promises to yourself, pick ONE THING and become a leading expert in it, talk about it, write about it, think about it, dream about it, bore the neighbors with it, doodle fucking hearts around it, tell everybody you can about it, believe it, fight for it, fight with it, cry over it, caress it, lose sleep over it, hate it, love it, and represent it so hard until it becomes your one and only truth.

And then the next time someone doesn’t want to buy from you, you know what you think?

Ha. Ha. 

That’s when you know you’re good.

And quite serendipitously, that’s when the world will, too.

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21 thoughts on "Just The Tip: How to Be the Most Confident Person At The Table"

  1. F*ck, yeah. Don’t SELL what you won’t BUY. If what you’re selling is something you’d buy, you’re golden. No? BTW, Ash, I enjoyed this snack-length post. With you, more is typically more (Give. Us. More.) but this one was like a big, fat “Booyah!” Booyah.

    1. Ash Ambirge says:

      See? I CAN BE SUCCINCT. 😉

  2. debra douville says:

    Right On (the money)!

  3. Karen Renee says:

    “Oh, you’re not the one for me? That’s great to know! I won’t waste my time, then.” … What a relief it is to be completely confident that I am “the one” for significant number of people. And so I build my connections with those who are thankful they’ve found me, and let the ones who don’t need me get on with finding “the one” for them.

  4. Julie Schmit says:

    Perfect timing- thanks Ash! I have done all of the “things” to make me an expert; grad school, more school, mentorships, designed courses, networked, marketed my work etc. These post was the “snap” that I needed at the perfect time. I am more than ready to “own” what I do and walk away with a clear head from people uninterested in buying, with my self-worth intact.

    1. Julie Schmit says:

      I have no idea how that person’s photo got next to my comment.

      1. Ash Ambirge says:

        Get it, @Julie! That’s what I like to hear.

        Also? That person is Tom freaking Selleck! We always screw with people who don’t have their own avatars set up. 😉 Consider yourself christened into our bunch! Ha!