By “people,” of course I mean, like, three, who were probably drinking booze one day and then decided to have at it on the internet—which we all know is a bad idea. AT LEAST COME AT ME SOBER SO I CAN UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU'RE SAYING. Or, pass the bottle—this is a place of sharing!
The nature of the complaint was this: that me partnering with Marie Forleo on her once-a-year online B-School program made me a sell out. I repeat: that the act of selling something made me a sell out.
Now, before I say anything else, I'd like to point out that this kind of women-bashing is exactly what so many women are afraid of: that if they dare do something promotional, they will be called this exact term. There's an entire chapter in my new book that addresses this very thing: I call it money shaming. And it doesn't happen to men. It happens to women—BY OTHER WOMEN.
She’s full of herself.
She’s got some nerve.
Who does she think she is?
This is the exact very thing that women are TERRIFIED other people are thinking of them, and I've got news for you: they are. The problem starts there. It’s not “all in our heads.” It’s because there are other women out there who think that you are TOO MUCH.
So let me tell you what I say to that. Loudly and proudly, baby, because you know what I say? Making money is a good deed—and there ain't gonna be an apology about it. Making money means that you are doing things that are useful to other people—because nobody ever paid anyone to be unhelpful, am I right? So don't you ever apologize for wanting to create as much value in the world as you can, and wanting to receive as much value in return as you can. DO NOT APOLOGIZE FOR CONTRIBUTING. And certainly do not apologize for wanting to be the best, or the most, of anything. No one gets to decide how much you deserve but you.
The good news, as I wrote in my book, is this: “For every person who money-shames you—even in the quietest of ways, through so much as a glance—there are people out there who will be thanking you. This is why any of us do The Work: because when you’re doing it right, you have made life better for someone. You have helped them in some way that they WON’T be able to stop thanking you for.”
And that's why I'm partnering with B-School for a second year in a row: because of the people who thank me for it. (Seriously, just look at these reviews—they are wild.) For the people who write in and tell me their life has been completely changed; that they pursued their passion and, thanks to B-School, made their first six figures doing business online. That they've now got the freedom to travel! Or stay home with the kids! Or do whatever the friggity frig they want at 1 o'clock in the afternoon! That they are no longer slaves to work they hate, in places they hate, with people they hate. That they put their balls in their hand and got the gumption to say “YES” to something scary, something big, something exciting, something NEW. Something they weren't sure would work out. Something they had no roadmap for, but desperately needed. (Hi, entire purpose of B-School.) The people who take B-School never stop thanking the people who introduced them to B-School. The people who take B-School are genuinely grateful that they did. You literally can't find exceptions to it. Everyone who enrolls is always weeing their pants at first, and then, the ones who actually do the program? They go from being meek and unsure to being steely and unfuckwithable. Because that's what B-School does: it gives you the certainty of “do this, not that, and do it in this order.” It's THE program for making your side hustle rake in real money using the tools we have available to use today online. (Another thing I talk about endlessly in my new book*: how much opportunity we all have, and yet, most of us are still looking for a job.)
*Will I ever tire of saying “in my new book?” UNLIKELY, FRANK.
**I don't know why I just called you Frank.
I've got more to say about B-School and why the program is something you should get off the fence about and try this year—because if you're going to do it, this is the year to do it. The Internet is growing and you need to stake your claim now, so by this time next year? You aren't still in the exact same fetal position. Stand the fuck up and dare to take up space. Because when you don't want to be seen, you stop doing things worth looking at—and I'm not about to let that happen to me OR you.
So look at me shouting it out from the rooftops right now, the biggest, brightest way I know how:
- I LOVE B-SCHOOL.
- B-SCHOOL IS THE BEST PROGRAM OUT THERE FOR BUILDING AN ONLINE BUSINESS.
- TAKE. B-SCHOOL. THIS. YEAR.
- SIGN UP FOR THE FREE B-SCHOOL WEBINAR HAPPENING TOMORROW, FEBRUARY 20TH.
- OR JUST STOP TORTURING YOURSELF WITH THE ENDLESS, INCESSANT MENTAL CHATTER AND JUST ENROLL ALREADY—NOW, TODAY, FEBRUARY 19TH, BECAUSE YOU WILL FIGURE IT OUT.
YOU ALWAYS DO.
- SO DO SOMETHING THAT FEELS INCANDESCENT AND FULL OF HOPE.
- USE THE REFUND PERIOD IF YOU HAVE TO, BUT WHATEVER YOU DO?
- DO NOT OVERTHINK YOURSELF INTO A TRAGIC LIFE THAT NEVER HAPPENED.
- DO NOT SHRINK.
- DO NOT LET OTHER WOMEN INTIMIDATE YOU.
- DO NOT LET YOUR FAMILY, YOUR SPOUSE, OR YOUR FRIENDS INTIMIDATE YOU.
- DO NOT LET THEIR PETTY LITTLE BULLSHIT WHISPERS MEAN ANYTHING.
- STAND UP.
- GET UP NOW.
- DO NOT BE A COWARD TODAY.
- DO NOT BE WISHY WASHY AND UNCOMMITTED TODAY.
- BE THE KIND OF WOMAN WHO SMIRKED IN THE FACE OF HER HATERS.
- AND BE THE KIND OF WOMAN WHO WHO LIVED THIS BIG, OPEN, EXPANSIVE, FULL-OF-FUN AND LAUGHTER AND NEW EXPERIENCES KIND OF LIFE.
Okay, I'll stop shouting now. That was mostly just to prove a point. When you believe in something? You stand up and you take charge. So what do you want to believe in? That there's a better way out there? Or that you'd be a sell out if you tried?
I've got news for you babe: the only people who are selling out are the ones who are procrastinating The Work because they're too scared they won't be enough—which is why they tell you that you aren't.
Go, go, go. You can enroll in tomorrow's free B-School webinar here to check it out and see if you dig. >>>
P.S. Don't forget that if you enroll in B-School through The Middle Finger Project by clicking any of these links, you'll also get to get on the phone with me for an entire hour—and I'll tell you anything you want to know. Just click here to enroll so you're tagged as Team TMF, or write to email@example.com and let them know you want your enrollment to be credited to Ash Ambirge / The Middle Finger Project. (I can't do it for you. It has to come from you for verification. 🙂 )