ASH AMBIRGE

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Perhaps This is What Entrepreneurship Has Given Me Most: It Has Taught Me How to Fight for Myself.

In: Finding Your Voice

The men came with trucks. To the naked eye, they looked like movers. In and out they passed the length of the trailer, hurriedly, sweatily, carrying boxes upon boxes back and forth, like ants.

“Can I get you an iced tea?” I asked.

They gulped them down like dogs. I wanted them to like me. I didn’t know if they’d really be able to sell my mother’s pewter knickknacks at auction—nor her collection of John Grisham novels, her wooden end tables, or the bed in which she’d lain when the blood clot had hit her lung—but I sensed that my survival depended on their mercy.

Mercy.

You’d think that an orphaned young woman would have tits of brass, and an attitude to match, but no—not then I didn’t. Back then life felt a lot like standing in the middle of a battlefield, unarmed, perpetually begging everyone for their charity. Everyone around me was the adult, while I was suspended in time as the child, and I deferred to everyone. From bosses to friends to foes to the parking lot attendant, I obeyed orders and nodded like a good girl, desperate to stay in the world’s good graces. (I mean, can you imagine what would happen if the parking lot attendant didn’t like you?)

It wasn’t until much later, when the world’s mercy finally failed me, that I discovered a much better alternative:

Agency.

My own.

For me, starting my own business was an exercise in learning how to trust myself, more than anything else. With every single decision you make, you learn that you are capable of doing so; with every transaction, you discover your own authority.

Perhaps this is what entrepreneurship has given me most: it has taught me how to fight for myself.

And perhaps this, more than anything, is why I champion it so. Not because business, in and of itself is so miraculous. But because business, in the context of everything else?

Is bravery.

Apr 18

2017

Growth Requires Muscle Tears

Apr 18, 2017

Yesterday I talked about change—and it’s no coincidence. I’m making some big changes myself, given that a lot of things are coming to an end, right now. Because iteration is what we’re all doing, every single day, even if it blows by us going 100mph down the freeway. (In a red Ferrari, smoking a cigar, […]

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Dec 28

2012

Forget Your Manners.

Dec 28, 2012

It’s polite to: …fulfill your obligations. …answer them back right away. …nod in agreement. …go with the flow. …do as you’re asked. …drink because they are. …take their call. …give your undivided attention. …fill the silence. …and always be there when they need you. Then again, no one’s ever done anything remarkable by always being […]

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Aug 15

2014

How to Be the Most Confident Person At The Table

Aug 15, 2014

When somebody doesn’t buy from you, which are you thinking? “Man, I’m a loser”  or “Man, they’re a loser.”  Getting cocksure is the very first order of business. And if you don’t feel sure of yourself, you know what you need? Not more clients. You need to sit your ass down, read 100 books, grovel for the […]

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Jun 15

2017

Having FUN Doesn’t Make You an Unprofessional Schmuck

Jun 15, 2017

Fun is underrated. We spend so much of our lives trying to get taken seriously, that fun becomes something we think of as shameful, dirty; something to be minimized in a professional setting. Giggles are juvenile; jokes are adolescent; anything more than a poker face threatens your status as “a respectable professional.” But that’s only […]

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Nov 22

2017

There’s No Such Thing As An Idea That *Isn’t* Offensive

Nov 22, 2017

You know what I’m grateful for? Fucking. NOT LIKE THAT, SICKO. Although, I mean, I guess…wait. Let me start again. I like the word fucking because it’s representative of something so much bigger than that, which is the real thing I’m grateful for: freedom of expression. Remember that cute little First Amendment? It says that the […]

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I'm a Bad Influence on Women

Hey, I’m Ash! Twenty years ago I was a small town girl growing up in a trailer park in rural Pennsylvania. Fifteen years ago, I lost my family and everything I knew right as I became the first to graduate college. Fourteen years ago, I found myself leaving everything behind for a new life in the city where I could be “normal.” Ten years ago I realized normal was the most disappointing thing that ever happened to me. Nine years ago I quit my job in advertising and pursued my dreams as a creative writer. Eight years ago, I built a 6-figure business doing what I love using nothing more than the Internet and my voice. And now, today, I’m the founder of The Middle Finger Project, an irreverent media co. that helps other women find their voice and teaches them to use it to build whatever the f*ck they want to. With a book coming out with Penguin Random House in February 2020 (YASSS, WE’RE A PRODUCT IN TARGET!) I’m proud to be a bad influence on women and guide them into doing something disobediently brave with their life and their career.

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