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Perhaps This is What Entrepreneurship Has Given Me Most: It Has Taught Me How to Fight for Myself.

In: Finding Your Voice

The men came with trucks. To the naked eye, they looked like movers. In and out they passed the length of the trailer, hurriedly, sweatily, carrying boxes upon boxes back and forth, like ants.

“Can I get you an iced tea?” I asked.

They gulped them down like dogs. I wanted them to like me. I didn’t know if they’d really be able to sell my mother’s pewter knickknacks at auction—nor her collection of John Grisham novels, her wooden end tables, or the bed in which she’d lain when the blood clot had hit her lung—but I sensed that my survival depended on their mercy.

Mercy.

You’d think that an orphaned young woman would have tits of brass, and an attitude to match, but no—not then I didn’t. Back then life felt a lot like standing in the middle of a battlefield, unarmed, perpetually begging everyone for their charity. Everyone around me was the adult, while I was suspended in time as the child, and I deferred to everyone. From bosses to friends to foes to the parking lot attendant, I obeyed orders and nodded like a good girl, desperate to stay in the world’s good graces. (I mean, can you imagine what would happen if the parking lot attendant didn’t like you?)

It wasn’t until much later, when the world’s mercy finally failed me, that I discovered a much better alternative:

Agency.

My own.

For me, starting my own business was an exercise in learning how to trust myself, more than anything else. With every single decision you make, you learn that you are capable of doing so; with every transaction, you discover your own authority.

Perhaps this is what entrepreneurship has given me most: it has taught me how to fight for myself.

And perhaps this, more than anything, is why I champion it so. Not because business, in and of itself is so miraculous. But because business, in the context of everything else?

Is bravery.

Aug 15

2014

How to Be the Most Confident Person At The Table

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When somebody doesn’t buy from you, which are you thinking? “Man, I’m a loser”  or “Man, they’re a loser.”  Getting cocksure is the very first order of business. And if you don’t feel sure of yourself, you know what you need? Not more clients. You need to sit your ass down, read 100 books, grovel for the […]

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Oct 29

2015

“I don’t feel confident in my work.”

Oct 29, 2015

Are you squinting your eyes at the screen trying to decide if this describes you or not? (Of course you are, you’re probably reading this on an iPhone the size of my elbow.) It’s kind of an ugly characterization—nobody wants to admit to feeling less than confident in what you’re doing. And yet, I’ve got […]

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Jun 15

2017

Having FUN Doesn’t Make You an Unprofessional Schmuck

Jun 15, 2017

Fun is underrated. We spend so much of our lives trying to get taken seriously, that fun becomes something we think of as shameful, dirty; something to be minimized in a professional setting. Giggles are juvenile; jokes are adolescent; anything more than a poker face threatens your status as “a respectable professional.” But that’s only […]

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Dec 12

2017

To The People Who Keep Asking Me When I’m Having a Baby

Dec 12, 2017

“When are you having a baby?” “You’d be a great mom.” “You’ll regret it later if you don’t.” “You HAVE to have kids!” …and I used to think people were pushy about making me try seafood. Though the decision not to have children actually reminds me of that: people are really convinced you’re making a […]

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Aug 22

2015

If You Don’t Seem Capable…You Aren’t

Aug 22, 2015

The way you hold your wine glass. How leisurely you pour your words. The conviction found in your fork, as you slowly and quite deliberately raise each bite to your mouth, as if rushes were for commoners and you hold the greatest secrets of the universe right there in between your forefinger and your thumb. […]

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Sep 1

2017

The World’s Funniest Fucking Soaps, Uh, Ever

Sep 1, 2017

You should know that I have officially discovered THE BEST THING THAT’S EVER BEEN MADE (after Cards Against Humanity, of course) and I had to share with you because I don’t keep anything from you (except for that one thing) and because we could all use some inspiration and also because CAN WE JUST LIGHTEN […]

In: Finding Your Voice

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