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Don’t Cower. Don’t Make Yourself Small. Be Your Absolute Fucking Self Every Single Day.

In: Finding Your Voice

I need to talk to you about my obsession with pearls.

More specifically, I need to talk to you about HOW EVERYBODY LOOKS AT ME LIKE I AM A GIANT WEIRDO when I wear fifty strands and then wrap 'em round and round my neck.

Ditto when I wear a blazer to a soccer game; black lip gloss to a meeting; fishnets underneath a pair of shorts, or dye my hair grey on purpose.

It's not just a matter of personal style: I get side eye for a lot of things. Traveling so goddamn much. Not settling down. Having an unconventional career. Drinking my coffee through a straw. 😉

There was a point in my life when I would have felt…nervous about it all. Not my choices, necessarily, but the way they would be received. I didn't like people having an opinion about me. I didn't want to seem like I was trying to be contrarian. I mean, god for fucking bid someone thought I was wrong.

What I learned over the years, however, is that showing up as yourself, however you see fit, is the most important work there is to be done. We are all setting 1,000 different fires for one another, simply through example alone, and having the courage to be the most brave version of yourself matters. It matters because they *are* looking at you, and they are wondering about you, but more importantly?

They're wondering about themselves. They're wondering if maybe they, too, might be brave. And that's the gift of reflection that you're offering to the world—not an affront.

In this way, being an individual is one of the most generous things you can do, for it might seem like a quiet act?

But it speaks volumes.

Nov 11

2010

You (Still) Don’t Need a Job.

MYTH: You think to yourself:  “You are no Chris Guillebeau; you should just go find a job.” –Fear expressed from an actual reader email If you’ve fallen into the trap of thinking you aren’t interesting enough, not smart enough, not savvy enough, not fill-in-the-blank enough, you’re, first, wrong, and second, ignorant of the way the […]

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Sep 1

2017

The World’s Funniest Fucking Soaps, Uh, Ever

You should know that I have officially discovered THE BEST THING THAT’S EVER BEEN MADE (after Cards Against Humanity, of course) and I had to share with you because I don’t keep anything from you (except for that one thing) and because we could all use some inspiration and also because CAN WE JUST LIGHTEN […]

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Sep 15

2015

Plan On Being Nervous, Brilliantly

Being nervous sucks. Your pulse races. Your brain blanks. Your hands shake like little assholes. You tell yourself to take deep breaths, but the minute you do, you then worry that the entire room can see the fact that your heart is, in fact, doing the electric slide up and down your rib cage. (God […]

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Jun 19

2017

I Wrote This For The Ones Who Care What They Might Think

“Oh, but they’re going to say ________________________.” That I’m not really as smart as I think I am.That I think I’m better than them, now.That I’m putting on a show. Good news: you can stop micro-managing all the thoughts that don’t belong to you, darling.  Their thoughts belong to them, just like their children do. You […]

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Feb 10

2016

Nice Brands Finish Last

[x_blockquote type=”center”]I take it as an insult when somebody calls me The N Word: Nice.[/x_blockquote] Out of 100,000 adjectives in the English language, if the best you can come up with is nice, then I’m doing something wrong. It’s like spending Thanksgiving Day ripping out gizzards and mashing actual potatoes, only to be told that […]

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