ASH AMBIRGE

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Blow Off Work Today. That’s An Order.

In: Feeling Dead and Uninspired

I've been thinking about joy lately.

I don't particularly care for the word; every word has its own personality, and the word joy seems to conjure up an image of an old lady with dentures and pearls. The word just feels outdated. Mothballesque, if you will.

Nevertheless, the concept remains.

It's stuck in my mind ever since a One Night Stand client was telling me about her business, and commented that the reason that people (her clients) gain weight isn't because they love food; it's because they lack joy.

It got me thinking about my own habits.

I've always tried to make fun a part of my business model. The rationale goes that when you don't have enough fun, you start to resent your work–no matter how awe-inspiring–and it all goes downhill from there. On the other hand, however, when you make dedicated time for fun, and imagine it in terms of the ultimate ROI (return on investment) you'll see in the quality of your work, it seems like not only a good business move, but a necessary one.

Harder said than done.

With only 24 hours in a day, and an unlimited number of potential projects (and deadlines!) that can be taken on, it becomes difficult to remember to put fun at the top of the list.

You fall behind.

Your inbox piles up.

You get overwhelmed.

And fun takes a backseat, because it seems to be the one thing on your to-do list that's negotiable.

But in my opinion, it's the one thing that shouldn't be.

Aside from greater ROI in terms of quality of output of your work, there's a million other reasons it should be at the top of the list–like quality of life, for one.

Too often I think we forget that we're here on earth to play.

Life really wasn't meant to be so serious.

So demanding.

So unyielding.

So forced.

Yet, we always manage to find ways to make it just that.

So, it's Friday.

A perfect excuse to blow off work and go do something fun for yourself.

That's right: Fucking blow off your work for today. I said it. And I mean it.

Go.

Feel.

Be.

Play.

LIVE.

Your work will be there when you return.

The day, however, won't be.

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Is It Your Own Fault?

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2012

Lust, Turkey Gizzards + A Ladylike Toast

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I blame my bleak and very unpromising cooking skills on Thanksgiving, you know. You’d think I would have gotten better from helping my mom prepare such a yearly feast for me, her and my dad. (Mashed potatoes were my sworn duty. Probably because they’re mashed, requiring heavy amounts of manual mashing child labor. Not to […]

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Shattering the Current Model of Reality

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Most of you reading this website are here because you want more. Tried and true may be comfortable, but boring.  The traditional life path may be safe, but uninspiring.  The status quo is average, but nothing extraordinary. You know there’s something missing, but you can’t pinpoint what, exactly, it is. We’ve essentially been told for […]

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Jun 25

2012

A Tearful Birthday

Jun 25, 2012

Yesterday was my birthday. I flew from Ecuador to Chile on Friday so I could spend my birthday with my best girl friends in the whole wide world. Sure enough, they surprised me in the airport with glittery welcome back posters, prompting me to scream like a hyena. I had no idea they were coming. […]

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I'm a Bad Influence on Women

Hey, I’m Ash! Twenty years ago I was a small town girl growing up in a trailer park in rural Pennsylvania. Fifteen years ago, I lost my family and everything I knew right as I became the first to graduate college. Fourteen years ago, I found myself leaving everything behind for a new life in the city where I could be “normal.” Ten years ago I realized normal was the most disappointing thing that ever happened to me. Nine years ago I quit my job in advertising and pursued my dreams as a creative writer. Eight years ago, I built a 6-figure business doing what I love using nothing more than the Internet and my voice. And now, today, I’m the founder of The Middle Finger Project, an irreverent media co. that helps other women find their voice and teaches them to use it to build whatever the f*ck they want to. With a book coming out with Penguin Random House in February 2020 (YASSS, WE’RE A PRODUCT IN TARGET!) I’m proud to be a bad influence on women and guide them into doing something disobediently brave with their life and their career.

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