ASH AMBIRGE

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Stop. Just Stop. Stop the Overdelivering, Overcommitting, Overworking, Overexertion. Because Overwhelm? We’re Over YOU.

In: Feeling Disillusioned With Life

You’ll let people down, okay?

It’s part of it. You can’t avoid it. It is actually, physically impossible for you to be everywhere and do everything and be everything to everyone with a plate of fucking cookies in your hand.  (BUT NICE TRY, THOUGH.)

Doing one thing that matters to you *requires you* to stop doing many things that matter to someone else. Just like you’ve only got so much space in your stomach at every meal, you’ve only got so much bandwidth in your brain. So who are you going to pick? Them, or you?

That sounds cynical and hostile and war-like and antithetical to all of the woo woo warm cozy lovey dovey advice on the Internet (gag), but I prefer to call it real. Logistics has never been my strong suit (HI I’M A CREATIVE), but that just means that I’ve had to work harder than most to get good at it. And one thing that’s abundantly apparent to me, as an outsider to all that is coordination utopia, is that we’re all trying to stuff so goddamn much onto our plates and our schedules and our lives—and it isn’t working.

And you know what happens? Not only are you going to feel like a gigantic, disorganized, flaky hot mess, but everything you try to do is going to suffer. By trying to be everything to everyone we inadvertently end up showing up like a used bag of dicks and then what good are we? It’s like trying to write a book that’s a masterpiece, but instead of sitting down and writing it, we actually start writing one little paragraph of everybody else’s books, first—here’s one for you and you and you and you and you and you and you and you. CAN YOU IMAGINE? How soon do you think your own work in this world is going to get realized? And how much are you willing to bet it’s going to be, um, less than brilliant?

Stop doing things on autopilot. Stop obligating yourself more than anyone deserves. Stop being at the beck and call of every ding, tweet, message and whim. And in fact, make a stop doing list…and then stop.

Don’t those words feel good?

…and then stop.

This is what self care looks like.

But it’s also what hustle looks like, if you’re looking closely.

May 3

2018

Listen: Do What You Crave Without the Guilt. Travel to Italy. Enroll in That Workshop. Make Your Art Every Afternoon. And Hurl Yourself Into the Unknown—For This Is The Best ROI That Money Can Buy.

May 3, 2018

My almost-mother-in-law gets really fucking nervous when I travel—especially when I bomb off to South America for a month by myself to drink ALL THE WINE and celebrate ALL THE BOOK DEALS. But she doesn’t get worried in the typical way a mother might; not the way my own mother would have been worried, which would […]

In: Feeling Dead and Uninspired, Feeling Disillusioned With Life

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Jun 14

2019

If You Ain’t Feelin’ Your Work Anymore: HONEY, BURN THAT ISH DOWN.

Jun 14, 2019

So, here’s an idea: making money is not courageous. Anybody can ring a bell for twenty years. “Look, ma—I’ve been standing over here ringing this bell for two entire decades—durh, durh, durh—and I finally got a sticker!” Making money is a relatively straightforward consequence of showing up to breathe in the right place. Cause and […]

In: Feeling Dead and Uninspired, Feeling Disillusioned With Life, Hate Your Job?

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Nov 27

2017

Self-Care Isn’t Always Glamorous.

Nov 27, 2017

Sooooo, it’s the holidays, and you know what that means? We all need to figure out how the hell we’re going to take care of our drooling, forgetful, overwhelmed selves, come the new year. (Oh, you’re not drooling and forgetful? GET OFF MY YARD.) Which brings up the topic of self-care. Jesus christ we’re bad at […]

In: Feeling Disillusioned With Life

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Apr 30

2018

If You Feel Like a Big, Fat Imposter Who Doesn’t Deserve Anything and Worries About EVERYTHING, Read This. It’s a GOOD Thing.

Apr 30, 2018

I’m writing this from a place that could almost be mistaken for the Italian countryside, were I not surrounded by lizards and toucans and bullfrogs the size of a fucking dinosaur. Rather, I am high up in the hills of Central America overlooking the Costa Rican valley from my squishy, pancake lounger—it sort of reminds me of […]

In: Feeling Dead and Uninspired, Feeling Disillusioned With Life

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Sep 7

2018

One Big, Sexy Question for Instant Clarification On: What the Hell Do I Want to Do With My Life?

Sep 7, 2018

I was reading something on the Internet yesterday that was praising this woman’s work, and I thought to myself: there’s such a difference between doing work and having work. (And yes, I italicized “such” in my mind.) To do work is to take on a task, whoever’s task it might be. To have work, though—work […]

In: Feeling Dead and Uninspired, Feeling Disillusioned With Life

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Oct 30

2018

For My People-Pleasing Babes Running Themselves Ragged (In Which The Phrase “Suck an Eggplant” Totally Makes an Appearance)

Oct 30, 2018

There’s a dirty little question I’ve been asking myself a lot, lately—and some might condemn me for it. In fact, this question is so controversial, I suspect 50% of the population may show up at the door with axes and sledgehammers, knives and crowbars. It is not a very Christian thing to think—then again, I’ve […]

In: Feeling Disillusioned With Life

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