Category: When You’re Stuck

Prayer for a Modern Girl

Her face is soft and at ease; serene and unhardened. She looks at the world through fresh, rosy eyes, while her lips unravel themselves easily at the sight of a stranger. Who are those who hold bitterness in their hearts? She walks past Round Pond, befriending the crisp July air, twirling twigs between her fingertips, taking refuge underneath the old maple. A blade of grass feels novel under her nose; a worm akin to an alien. The sight of Queen

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Is It Worth Your Time…Or Not? This Is How You Decide.

Stick it out or throw in the towel? Is patience a virtue, or does it make you a fool? Do good things really come to those who wait, or do they come to those who…don’t? We seem to think that time is a predictor of success, but it’s not: enthusiasm is. You could do something for fifty years, and if you’ve done so with desire, it will have been worth it. On the other hand, you could do something for

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Never, Ever Put It Off—Or Say You’ll Get to It Tomorrow. Like, Ever. So Help You Vodka.

One of the most important jobs you have: keep your promises to yourself. It’s easy to make exceptions when no one’s going to notice; no one’s going to hold you to it; no one’s going to be angry if you don’t. It’s easy to say you’ll get to it tomorrow, or that it’s the least important priority on your list. But every time you tell yourself you’re going to take the jog, write the blog post, start the thing, try

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If You’re Resenting Your Work, the Answer is Always Murder

Procrastination is the earliest sign. Then comes disdain. When you physically cannot bring yourself to do the work, just one more minute, that’s when you know you have no other choice. You. Must. Murder. Murder your own success. Murder your resume. Murder your reputation. And murder everything that feels like a heavy leaden weight on your shoulders. Burn it right down to the ground, and don’t worry about regrets. Because none of it this worth it if you have to

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If the Pressure Isn’t Worth It, Say, “Sayonara Bish.”

Is it worth the stress? It’s a metric we don’t consider enough. Is it worth the money? We ask ourselves that every day. Is it worth the time? We ask ourselves that, too. But something that might be worth both the money and the time, may never be worth the pressure. As much as we like to think of ourselves as “capable,” all of us have limits. There are some things that will kill you, you know.

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Are You Money Poor, Time Poor, Or Worse—Both?

There’s money poor, and there’s time poor. In order to be rich in one, most people give up the other. These two things are seemingly in constant battle with each other, pulling, tugging, yanking for custody. In order to have more money, you must give up the time to get it. In order to have more time, you must give up the money. But is this really true? Actually, this is an outdated model of the way we view our

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“Knock, Knock, Motherfucker,” she said, batting her eyelashes.

The other day, folks from around the world met me on Twitter, like thieves in the night, and shared the answer to one simple question: What’s your #middlefingerproject? You can read through the stream here, but I wanted to share a few here, today, because this is the point of everything. You. Me. Here. Supporting one another and figuring out how the hell to create these lives worth living, these projects worth pursuing, and these businesses worth running. Do not

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The World Isn’t Your Mommy

You know what’s crazy? There’s not actually a team of people assigned to your life, sitting around monitoring your blood work, and your bank accounts, and the health of your relationships, jotting down notes, circling areas of concern. There’s no supervisor. No one checking your progress. No one setting quarterly reviews. As a result, we end up operating by a dangerous principle: out of sight, out of mind. We don’t worry about the stuff we can’t see. “Health.” “Financial security.”

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