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Success Is Where the Heart Is

this entry has 12 Comments/ by Ash

He sat in the far corner of the room–no clip board, no notepad, no smile.

I couldn’t make out his face–the room was dark and the curtains were drawn.

I waited for Al Pacino to bust down the door, cigar in hand.

I was seated near the door, at a table, with a woman named Carol opposite me. I was to address Carol–not the man in the corner–and, most importantly, stay focused.

I trembled as I pulled a box out of the garbage bag. It was a brown cardboard hexagon-shaped box. One I had bought at a craft store two weeks prior. One I had labored over. Sweat over. And one that I hoped would change everything.

“This,” I started, pointing at a scanned, shrunken newspaper article that I had pasted to one side, “was the stone wall I built for my friend Jill.”

Carol’s face remained indifferent.

“She passed away when we were in middle school.”

I slowly rotated the box. “And this, over here, is when I led our volleyball team to a district championship as Captain.”

“I bet your mother was very proud,” Carol interjected.

“My mother never saw me play volleyball.”

I quickly glanced away and continued on with my carefully planned monologue, pulling a second box from inside the bigger one. Another hexagon.

With each turn of the box, I listed yet another arbitrary achievement–Honor Society President, Student Council Secretary, Yearbook Staff–before pulling out an even smaller hexagon box and rattling off more of the same. I had spent hours scanning, shrinking, and painstakingly pasting evidence to my hexagon boxes.

“And this,” I said, “is a copy of the eulogy I gave, as I led my father’s memorial service,” before rotating the box to show another side. “And this is the estate sale I held thereafter.”

“How old were you?”

“Fourteen.”

She made a note. The man in the corner did not make any notes.

It was then, however, that I pulled the remaining box from the stack–the smallest, and seemingly least important. I paused, placing the tiny box on the table, and mustered the courage to look her in the eye to say the one thing I had really come to say.

I took a deep breath.

“But none of any of that matters,” I began. “Not the awards. Not the recognition. Not the hardship. And nothing I’ve just gotten done telling you about.”

I had her attention.

“Because if you would do me the honor of opening the last box, you’ll see why.”

I slid the box toward her. She lifted the lid.

Inside was a plush red something, tucked neatly inside.

“What makes me a future entrepreneur,” I said, “is that, right there.”

She pulled it out of the box.

“HEART.”

It was then that, despite the shadows, I noticed a small smile spread across the founder of Monster.com’s face. Andy McKelvey then stood up, walked over to me and shook my hand.

One week later, I had won a fully paid scholarship to a private university, including room and board and a brand new laptop, worth over $120,000.

I accepted the award on stage, and watched as the other winners’ families surrounded them with flowers, proud faces and dinner reservations at fancy restaurants.

I silently snuck out the side door.

Everything was going to be alright.

It wasn’t until many years later that I was convinced that what I had said in that interview room at Penn State University wasn’t just a well-executed line to win a scholarship.

It was the truth.

And throughout the years would I come to discover just how true it actually was.

Because as it turns out, no matter who you are, what your circumstances are, or how little you’re starting with…

…heart will always, always, always be your number one asset.

And sometimes, all we need to do?

…is remember to access it. 

 

 

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  • Cameron Hurd

    Friggin’ ace, Ash.

  • http://www.thewordchef.com/ Tea Silvestre, aka Word Chef

    I loved this post more than any other post I’ve read from you so far. TRUTH.

  • Anita.

    Amazing. You know how proud your parents would be right? I’m using your gutsy-ness to teach my 11 year old niece how to follow her heart. Thank you.

  • Kyle

    This post is FUERTE dude. Tears. I loved it.

  • http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog Lewis LaLanne – NoteTakingNerd

    You do a marvelous job Ash of revealing your Hero’s Journey here.

    A Hero’s Journey as Joseph Campbell describes it has three fundamental elements to it . . .

    Separation – This is where you get separated from a reality that you’ve known all your life and have been familiar/comfortable with because the dragons appear.

    In the example of the movie Star Wars, this is when Luke Skywalker comes home to find that his aunt and uncle have been murdered and that he is now on his own.

    The next element is . . .

    Initiation – This is where you have heeded the call to adventure and you’re put into a new set of circumstances in which you need to be initiated into. This is where doors open for you that aren’t open to everyone else.

    In Star Wars this is when Luke begins the process of his training with Yoda to become a Jedi.

    Return – You come back home a transformed person to tell the story and help others with your new found gifts.

    Think of when Luke returns to his new family and friends a new man at the end of Return of the Jedi.

    Most smart business owners who have a blog don’t talk about their Hero’s Journey. Instead they think that the name of the game is to dump awesome how to content on their audience and that’s what will keep them coming back. I think that approach to running a blog is a grave disservice to your fans and that you’ve got the content/connection balance working brilliantly in your favor and I continue to look forward to the next installment of your Hero’s Journey.

  • http://www.WTFMarketing.com/ Nick Armstrong

    When I read something like this, I have to remember my role as a gatekeeper.

    Often times, as a teacher/mentor/helper of the non-techies, I am the thing that stands between someone’s success or failure. When they’ve stopped believing in themselves, I have to intercede. And it’s up to me to have the resolve that they are missing in that moment. If I don’t believe, and their heart is weak, they’re toast (for now, at least).

    You are a *masterful* storyteller because you speak from the heart. Masterful storytelling takes resolve to see a tale from start to finish and leave out unnecessary details. It’s very hard to keep masterful storytellers down.

    Even so, I have to believe that if your gatekeeper had just left, instead, you still would have found a way to make all this happen. Heart, combined with unyielding resolve, is what enables an entrepreneur to keep on going. You have both in spades :-)

  • http://twitter.com/TaniaDakka Tania Dakka

    Damn. I already heard/read that story somewhere, but this time it was intense! Magnificent job:)

  • rona

    ya know, you moved me to tears too. soul. that hearts a pumpin’ some warm streams of salt and i’m biting at my cuticles. how i’d love to see that hexagonal box and the mind film replay of the live event. LOVE U #ash. <3

  • MikaelShort

    Love. Love. Love. Heart. Heart. Heart. Wish I could say more, but I can’t.

  • http://neuralmisfirings.com/ Glenn Dixon

    Oh Ash! Love love LOVE you! Thank you for sharing these pieces of your heart with us.

  • Amy C

    This moved me to tears. Your writing gnaws at me, I am so pumped for Brandgasm 101 :)

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