The 67 Emotions of Success: My Story

IN: Confidence

OBLIVIOUS

When tears silently fell from her cheek upon finding the note from her lover, 3 days before their daughter was born that read:  “I’m sorry.  I can’t do this.”

ASHAMED

When classmates asked where my daddy was.  I lied & told them he was Crocodile Dundee, and had to be in Australia to tame the outback.

CONFUSED

When we used different money than everyone else to buy bread & milk.

BITTER

When I was 14 and sat in the hospital waiting room on a sunny June day. When my adopted dad finally emerged, after what seemed like hours, he handed me a phamplet. It read, “Helping Your Family Cope with Terminal Cancer.”

NOSTALGIC

When I would hear Puff Daddy’s “I’ll Be Missing You” come on the radio after he died, just a few short months later, after tearfully asking me to call him “dad” instead of “Jimmy,” like I always had. I got to call him it twice.

MORTIFIED

When it was just me & my mom after that, and all of the other 15 year olds had basements underneath their houses. We had wheels.

FRUSTRATED

When my mother’s debilitating anxiety & social disorder prevented her from ever coming to watch me play volleyball more than once in 4 years. We were almost state champions.

RELIEVED

When the founder of Monster.com thought I was worthy enough to be awarded a 4-year, all-expense paid scholarship to a private, liberal arts school—room & board included. The scholarship was based on financial need & demonstrated entrepreneurial spirit. My mom cried.

GUILTY

When I took the scholarship and left her all alone.

SADDENED

When an unexpected card would arrive with $50 that she didn’t have inside, telling me to go buy myself something pretty.

ANNOYED

When, a few years later, I found myself back in that same hospital waiting room. But this time, it was my mother I was waiting for to come out of the doctor’s office.

SCARED

When I realized the seriousness of the matter.

PATIENT

When she taught me how to pay all of the bills, as I wrote out check after check from her hospital bedside, as nurses came in and out to take her blood.

LIVID

When the doctor’s arrogant insensivity to her pain one day made her weep.

VENGEFUL

When I let him have a piece of my 20 year old mind.

FRUSTRATED

When college friends ragged on me for not going out that weekend to party.

RESENTFUL

When I couldn’t.

SHOCKED

When I got the phone call while driving to my first day at my internship at a local TV station.

DEVASTATED

When, by the time I got to our house, the coroner had taken her body & simply left a note on the door.

BITTERSWEET

When, 4 months later, I walked across the graduation stage & got my college degree, not even bothering to look out into the crowd for a familiar face.

INDIFFERENT

When I hastily auctioned off all of our things.

LOST

When I sold our trailer for $13,000 at market price, and took off for Central America.

DISTRAUGHT

When I loved it there, but still felt the pressing need to “live up to my potential” & become a CEO.

HOPEFUL

When I flew back to the United States several months later to interview for my first real job.

WORRIED

When I realized that I didn’t have a home to return to.

GRATEFUL

When the job went so well, I received a promotion to head up marketing efforts.

DISHEARTENED

When I’d see planes pass by my office window, and longed to be one of the passengers on board.

DISAPPOINTED

When the realization came that I could only be one of those passengers for up to two weeks a year, from now until the day I retired. I didn’t want to waste my life like my parents did, always waiting until tomorrow to be happy—because tomorrow you’re dead.

DISILLUSIONED

When I discovered that my dreams of corporate success—or anything most people want—was never worthy of wanting.

DESPAIRED

When others told me I was naïve, and that I just had to suck it up.

LONELY

When those same people spent Thanksgiving & Christmas with their families.

ARROGANT

When I quit my job & decided to start a copywriting business instead.

FOOLISH

When I actually thought that spending my time developing corporate communications materials that didn’t interest me would be any better.

EXCITED

When that same year, I got a contract to write an eBook on visiting Costa Rica.

SMART

When I realized they didn’t have exclusive rights, and I could develop my own site & sell the book there, too.

DETERMINED

When I laboriously tried to learn HTML.

ELATED

When I saw my very first sale come through Clickbank.

INTRIGUED

When I discovered the world of Google Adwords.

ADDICTED

When I rediscovered my love for marketing.

CONFIDENT

When I painstakingly slaved over a book proposal to write a non-fiction narrative titled, “The Truth About Mangoes.” (Worst name ever.)

TORN

When I repeatedly received the infamous rejection letter (after rejection letter after rejection letter after rejection letter).

DESPERATE

When my new venture wasn’t pulling as much revenue as I thought I would, and had to borrow money from a boyfriend to pay my $1,000 a month rent.

HOPELESS

When I caved to pressure & agreed to take a job as an advertising account executive in order to pay the bills.

ENCOURAGED

When I got contract after contract signed on the spot…for years.

UNCERTAIN

When, in my heart, I knew I needed more than signatures & commissions.

PETRIFIED

When, despite that knowledge, I was too scared to make any bold moves, knowing that I had no one in the world to back me up if I failed.

INCENSED

When I stood by and watched that fear get the best of me.

OPTIMISTIC

When I returned to school for my master’s degree in Linguistics.

ANXIOUS

When I imagined that my degree would allow me to indefinitely travel the world, and make anywhere I pleased my home.

IRRITATED

When loan applications were denied without a parent co-signer.

STUBBORN

When I decided that I would teach writing as a way to make up for it.

HEARTBROKEN

When my best friend told me I needed to find a new place to live so her boyfriend could move in. I had $26.

DEFEATED

When I had no choice but to go stay with a mysterious new guy I had been seeing.

DESTROYED

When, a few weeks later, I fought for my life.

HOPELESS

When I was alone & scared in the middle of the night, with everything I owned and no place to go.

ANGUISHED

When I felt like it was all my fault.

OBSTINATE

When I decided to start The Middle Finger Project as a way to find people who GOT IT. Who got ME, and this NEED to seek MORE out of life…despite the consequences.

DILIGENT

When I continued to blog. And blog. And blog.

VALIDATED

When my ideas were well-received.

COURAGEOUS

When I decided to use all the years I spent in corporate America for good – and teach marketing and sales with an edge to other people who wanted to break free & start their own business, but had no idea where to start.

AMAZED

When my ideas were not only well-received – but they were saving people’s businesses.

EXHILARATED

When I found myself up until the wee hours of the night “working.”

DEDICATED

When I continued to expand the company.

INSPIRED

When I began plotting some new ventures.

PEACEFUL

When my influence online grew. (And grew. HOW DID IT GROW SO FAST? I still wonder.)

INVIGORATED

When I decided to move to Chile, simply because I wanted to, and I can, since I no longer have to be in any one physical location, thanks to this life and business I’ve created for myself. And later, Spain. And then Ecuador. And now, Costa Rica.

HAPPY

When I looked around me yesterday, took a sip of my wine, and finally felt like I was doing what I was meant to do, and being what I was meant to be…despite the long road it took to get here.

That said, I have a message.

For everyone out there thinking to yourself that it’s unrealistic, YOU ARE WRONG.

For everyone out there shackled by fear, telling yourself that you could lose everything, YOU ARE RIGHT.

And for everyone out there that, despite that knowledge, is still willing to risk it by fighting for something more out of this fleeting speck of time we’re granted here on earth, YOU ARE THE ONLY ONES WHO WILL TRULY SUCCEED.

Because at the very least, you know that you did everything you could.

Not many people can say the same.