ASH AMBIRGE

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Love or Money? Which Should You Go For in Business, In Your Next Project, In Your Next Great Lust Affair With Life?

In: Hate Your Job?

There are the passionistas and the opportunists.

The passionistas argue you should do what you love. The opportunists argue you should do what you see.

In a place like Costa Rica, where C and I have a home, there’s so much opportunity it’s dizzying. Every five minutes I’m starting a new business in my brain. Lack = opportunity. And if I didn’t give a shit about the way I spend my time, I’d be the biggest opportunist there was. I’D OWN HOTELS OR SOMETHING, YOU GUYS. And definitely a lemon shop. Did you know there are no lemons in Costa Rica, only limes? I REST MY CASE.

But just because you could do something, doesn’t mean you should. This is where the passionista side comes in, with her sweet little voice, as she whispers in your ear: Forget me not.

And so you search and sift and sort through all of the hypotheticals until you land on the scenario that, in an ideal world, sits right at the intersection of both: something you love to do, where there’s also business viability. But most people stop short. They go for the love, but neglect to consider how something might fit into the marketplace. Sure, you could start another mediocre online group in which you’re doling out advice all the live long day, but if no one cares, you will go bankrupt. No bones about it. Game over. Not viable. EEEETTTTTTTTT.

So here’s a tip when you’re thinking about your next move:

Think about what you hate about your industry.
Then, figure out how you can turn it into love.

How can you take that very thing and turn it into a competitive edge? How can you stand for the opposite? How can you do it better? How can you use a negative and turn it into an advantage?

This is how you construct opportunity, as opposed to trying to find it.

This is how you become an opportunist born from love—not in spite of it.

And this is how you can go for the love AND the money. Because it’s not a dichotomy, it’s a layering of both. And the most successful know that doing what you love is a given—because anything less, and you'd be a slave.

Feb 13

2019

How to Start an Online Business When You Are Not an “Internet Person”—And Are Seriously Doubting That You Can Do This

Feb 13, 2019

So, the other day one of my best college girlfriends reached out and was all, “Ashhhhhhhhhh! I need your helpppppp! I’m trying to start an online business but I have no idea what I’m doing and you’re obviously the first person that I thought of, muahahaha.” (She. Is. Adorable. She’s been hand-painting wooden signs and […]

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Jun 1

2017

Good Things Come to Those Who Wait for No One

Jun 1, 2017

Here’s a principle I vehemently disagree with: Good things come to those who wait. You know who probably came up with that stylish piece of wisdom? Someone in a position of power, tasked with managing the masses and getting them to obey orders. You can hear a teacher saying that, can’t you? Now, there, little […]

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Feb 18

2019

Dream Zappers, Thought Terrorists, and Why You Should Be Weary of Anyone Who Tells You “I’m Just Looking Out for You”

Feb 18, 2019

OKAY. I just have to say this before I freaking hurl a tray of freshly-baked carrot fries across the room. (What? They’re good. SPRINKLE THEM WITH SOME CUMIN.) So today at 8:32am I got a text from a friend—like, an actual, IRL friend—who is thinking about registering for B-School tomorrow (since she, like so many […]

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Jul 18

2019

“I Don’t Know What I Want to Dooooo, And I’m Kinda Confused, and I’m Feeling Like a Flakey Little Fruitcake, Ash!”

Jul 18, 2019

WITTY BANTER. Biggest turn-on ever. (Because we’re just opening with that, okay?) Like, I don’t even care if you’re wearing coveralls and haven’t shaved in forty-nine years: if you’re witty, I’m going to want to jump your bones. Which I won’t do, ahem, given that I’m in a relationship and all, but this is a hypothetical […]

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Apr 28

2017

Make Something That Matters

Apr 28, 2017

Things aren’t always what they seem. An email list full of 100,000 people is meaningless if only 100 of those people open the emails. Similarly, an email list of 100 people, with 100 of those people opening them, does mean something. Who is more successful? And who is doing something that actually matters?

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Jun 18

2017

Seek Pleasure, And You Will Have Found Your Work

Jun 18, 2017

Procrastination is not a symptom of something that’s wrong with you, your brain, or your level of commitment—it’s a clue. Something is wrong with it. The thing you’re doing—do you really want to be doing it? Does this actually give you joy, or have you roped yourself into yet another maze of obligations and onuses, […]

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May 1

2013

Here’s an Opportunity – TAKE IT

May 1, 2013

I’ve got a theory. Don’t tell anyone, because if they take it to heart, they might get even better at this business thing, and then what’s going to happen is that one year from now, you’ll somehow find yourself eating red velvet cupcakes at their book signing instead of your own, except you won’t just be […]

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I'm a Bad Influence on Women

Hey, I’m Ash! Twenty years ago I was a small town girl growing up in a trailer park in rural Pennsylvania. Fifteen years ago, I lost my family and everything I knew right as I became the first to graduate college. Fourteen years ago, I found myself leaving everything behind for a new life in the city where I could be “normal.” Ten years ago I realized normal was the most disappointing thing that ever happened to me. Nine years ago I quit my job in advertising and pursued my dreams as a creative writer. Eight years ago, I built a 6-figure business doing what I love using nothing more than the Internet and my voice. And now, today, I’m the founder of The Middle Finger Project, an irreverent media co. that helps other women find their voice and teaches them to use it to build whatever the f*ck they want to. With a book coming out with Penguin Random House in February 2020 (YASSS, WE’RE A PRODUCT IN TARGET!) I’m proud to be a bad influence on women and guide them into doing something disobediently brave with their life and their career.

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