Tag: Living

Do It Or Dump It? A Note About Selecting Your Priorities Like a Badass Bitch.

Today in Philly I tried on THE MOST AMAZING COAT. It was black. Slinky. Faux fur. The kind of coat that fuck you women wear. (They’re a special kind of breed, you know.) I was down to buy this coat. And by “buy” it, I actually mean take it home and roll around naked in it FOR DAYS. DAYS!!! The neighbors would think I was dead! There’d be empty pizza boxes everywhere! The phone would ring and ring and ring,

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Stop. Just Stop. Stop the Overdelivering, Overcommitting, Overworking, Overexertion. Because Overwhelm? We’re Over YOU.

You’ll let people down, okay? It’s part of it. You can’t avoid it. It is actually, physically impossible for you to be everywhere and do everything and be everything to everyone with a plate of fucking cookies in your hand. (BUT NICE TRY, THOUGH.) Doing one thing that matters to you *requires you* to stop doing many things that matter to someone else. Just like you’ve only got so much space in your stomach at every meal, you’ve only got

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Sometimes, Being Difficult Is an Act of Devotion

Nobody wants to “be difficult.” Those words have stigma tattooed right across their rear. Just hearing them makes you think of that psycho in line at the grocery store, berating the cashier for not accepting her expired coupon. (She’s also wearing Uggs, for the record, and DEFINITELY has a soggy cigarette hanging out of her mouth.) But the older I get, the more I am convinced that there is superficial difficult, like that—difficult for the sake of being difficult—but also

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We’re Quick to Throw Away Our Gut Instincts in Favor of Someone Else’s Advice

It’s easy to defer to the experts to tell you what to do. There are parts of us that are always seeking that validation, that security, that assurance that what we are doing is “right.” It’s why you hire the business coach, follow the advice of the lawyer, and let the person with the title call the shots. But the person with the title can only take you so far. Knowledge and experience aside, there’s always an inherent limitation that

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She Wrote the Book On It

At my retreat in the Cotswolds, this past summer, I gave everyone salmon-colored Kate Spade notebooks that read on the cover: She wrote the book on it. It’s a theme I teach and live and breathe and bleed. Everyone’s always asking, “How do you market yourself? How do you get people to notice you?” (For the record, this question is a little bit like asking, “How do I have sex?” In other words, not exactly a straightforward process—unless you have

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Scared You’ll ___________? Here’s a Clever Little Mental Tip for Becoming UNF*CKWITHABLE.

HI, IT’S FRIDAY, and I’m sure you’re probably about to do all sorts of things I absolutely approve of. *slow clap* To assist you in your ventures—which may or may not include spending the next 48 hours sitting your ass down at your laptop, hustling to grow your business / working on that project / making something from nothing / trying to remember to apply a second coat of deodorant—I thought I would share a little piece of advice one

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We Are Overthinking EVERYTHING

We’ve all got these really exhausting mental scripts we tell ourselves. For example, earlier today I was telling myself I was going to exercise, but then I told myself that, well, maybe notttttt, because I had something heavy for lunccchhhh, so I probably wouldn’t have the energggggy, and then it’d be harder than usuaaaal, and then I’d hate every minute of ittttt, and then I’d be reminded of how much I succccck, and then it might discourage meeeeee, and then

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Every Item On Your To-Do List is a Miniature Contribution To the World

You know, after the Vegas shooting, I thought a moment of silence, here on the blog, would be appropriate. Every time a tragedy like this occurs, I am reminded of how insignificant everything else is. To jump into your inbox the next day yapping about refund policies and client contracts would be in poor taste. It’s not only indelicate, but there’s a part of me that can’t help but feel that it’s inhumane. And then the storm hit. I am

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The World’s Funniest Fucking Soaps, Uh, Ever

You should know that I have officially discovered THE BEST THING THAT’S EVER BEEN MADE (after Cards Against Humanity, of course) and I had to share with you because I don’t keep anything from you (except for that one thing) and because we could all use some inspiration and also because CAN WE JUST LIGHTEN UP ABOUT BUSINESS AND HAVE SOME FUN WITH IT, ALREADY? These soaps are all made by The Whiskey River Soap Company, and if you don’t

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“I Wish I Could Travel the World Like You”

“I wish I could travel the world like you.” It was a comment left on a recent Facebook post, and admittedly, a comment I get often—but not one I like to receive. It depresses me, more than anything, how powerless most Westerners feel over their own lives. Anything is possible, in modern Western society, and yet, there’s a widespread perception that nothing is. I know you’ve got kids. And I know you’ve got a job. And I know you’ve got

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