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People Bullying Your Time? An Answer for the Overcommitted, Overcrazed & Exhausted.

In: Pet Peeves,

Know what’s a really big mistake? Letting people push you around.

Letting people decide how you’ll spend your time. Guilting you into doing things you don’t want to. And generally taking a big fucking twirly straw and sucking up your energy until you’re a California raisin.

Look, people are assholes, alright? They don’t mean to be assholes, but everyone’s out to get theirs. Everyone’s got an agenda, and yes, they will email you about it. They will put you on the spot. They will demand your time. And they won’t take no for an answer.


Let ’em.

But don’t let them bully you into giving them your time unless you’re in a position to give it, because for every minute you spend helping them build their dream, you take a big rusty pitchfork and shove your own under 1,000 metaphorical rugs.

Sound self-centered / uncharitable / stingy / ungenerous ?


Guard your time.

I had lunch with a new business owner yesterday who uttered the words, “free consultation,” and I reached right across the table and slapped her. (Okay, so I didn’t really slap her, but it’s what I would have done if I didn’t think she’d slapped me back.)

Your business isn’t going to make money itself.

If you need to charge money, charge it.

And if you need to take back your time, take it.

But whatever you do, don’t let others take it out from under you, when it shouldn’t be up for the taking.

Because they’ll take your dreams – and all the stuff that really matters – right along with it.

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65 thoughts on "People Bullying Your Time? An Answer for the Overcommitted, Overcrazed & Exhausted."

  1. Siobhan Hanlin says:

    Sweet Jesus woman, it’s like your posts are bang on time for what’s going on in my life! Gotta say ‘No’ more often. Thanks

  2. Lauren Lund says:

    As an web designer working 239847328472 hours a day, this one hit the spot! I wish I had time to set up my Infusionsoft campaigns, revamp my own website and blog regularly.. In other words, work ON my business instead of just IN it! Can’t wait to wrap up a few time-consuming (but still totally awesome) projects so I can work on Code Culture, Inc: Phase 2! 😀

  3. “free consultations” or “free clarity sessions” are banned from my language (and my copy) and I make damn sure that anyone that works with me bans it too.

  4. Lauryn Doll says:

    Amen to this entire post. The past year I’ve been narrowing my focus. This year so far?

    Even more focused, and have even less time for the bullshit. Especially bullshit that looks like it’s cloaked over someone’s assumption I’m giving away something free. Oh no honey, this is of value. You better pay like I weigh.